Most affairs now begin online – 20% from Facebook

Did you know that around 70% of all affairs these days begin online, or that 20% begin on Facebook?

Which isn’t really all that surprising, seeing as how this is the electronic age.  It does change how spouses and significant others address the problem though.  Before virtually everyone had access to a computer, people met others at work, after work, at a gym – usually relatively close to home, unless they met someone on a business trip.

These days however, people can search for a clandestine meeting in the comfort of their own home.  There are sites that make it easy to find a stranger, or even a former girlfirend or boyfriend who may have moved away from the area years before.   

One thing that has not changed all that much are the signs to look for that someone is having an affair.  In this article written by Jayne Keedle for the Albany Times Union; 

http://www.dailycomet.com/article/20110415/WIRE/110419611/1008?Title=Signs-your-partner-may-be-cheating

we see that people involved in affairs will often have changes in personality, dress, habits, etc.  There are also “electronic signs” to look for; a secret cell phone, going outside to take calls/read text messages, or staying up late at night on the computer (which is kept locked/coded).

One thing to be very aware of is that the other person very often has a “reasonable expectation of privacy”, which means that you may be breaking the law by “hacking into’ their computer to read e-mails.  Federal laws may apply and stiff penalties such as large fines and jail sentences may be imposed, so be very careful not to break the law.

If you suspect that something may be taking place, it is advisable to hire a professional investigator – one who knows and obeys the law.  An experienced investigator will review your case and advise you how to gather evidence from surveillance, social media, etc.

Ask not What We Can Do for You – Ask What YOU Can Do for You

Sexton Executive Security are preparing for their summer ’09 Private Investigation training class.

The one thing we have noticed,a common denominator of sorts, is the fact that a large number of would-be applicants for the training class are asking about a “guarantee” of future employment.

I have answered in excess of 125 e-mails and a few dozen phone calls this past 10 days – just as a first step and a high proportion of those writing and calling all want to know how soon they can be working after finishing the class.

I wish there was a way I could address everyone thinking about a career in security and reach them all at the same time. My answer would be; “There are no guarantees”. Is that strange?

I don’t think so. How many of you who went through 4 or 6 years of college and spent tens upon tens of thousands of dollars on college fees actually received a guarantee of a job upon graduation? Did the college arrange to have hiring companies standing by to sweep you off your yet unemployed feet?

The Security Profession makes for wonderful careers, but it’s like the rest of life -it is what you make of it. I have many colleagues who charge clients hundreds of dollars per hour for their service. Yes PER HOUR. It took them many years to build up to that level, but it is very attainable.

My motto is; “if you want it bad enough, you can make it happen”, but be prepared to put in a lot of sweat equity. You will not get there sitting at home waiting for the phone to ring.